There comes a time when we question what we do. A time when our self-confidence takes time off. It take ears to maintain the designated course. Many people give up, let go or start to treat their passion as just hobby. The reason for that is comparing yourself to others. We do it incorrectly and above all needlessly. Each of us have their own live and follow a completely different path, have different commitments. On the mat, inside a ring or octagon we feel equal, because it is true. But when the club door is closed behind us we return to our normal lives. The burden we carry can be a lot heavier than the one carried by our training buddy we compare ourselves to.
We started at the same time. Why is she/he better than me?
You train hard, you sacrifice time, follow your diet, you do not really have any life apart from the club and work, you do not pay much attention to your family, and you travel across the country to get beaten up in just a few seconds. You come back wondering if you should not leave all this behind, to start „live like normal people”; wise up, sleep in clean sheets, to drink fresh milk. You spent the money, you exhausted your body in training, then you made your best to gain weight – to what end? A moment of carelessness and you are done on your way home.
Does all that make your skill level decrease?
Doubts come to everyone. In martial arts, where the amplitude of emotions tilts extremely, doubting your own abilities is a normal phenomenon, on the other hand completely strange one to those who do not compete in sport. It engages us on two levels; long-term, when we wonder about the reason we are doing this, whether we should slow down, „start living”, train in a recreation mode, and short-term, when we step on the mat, enter the ring and octagon, and forget everything that we have learned feeling blocked in the head – then the fight does not go as planned, and we are losing to someone who is less skilled.
We will not get worse in the sport we train only because we lost a fight, our partner makes progress faster, or we have skipped some trainings.
In Japanese martial arts there is a concept of the road. One of the most experienced mountain climbers once said that after conquering Mount Everest, when he stood on the top, he did not hear the fanfare, there was no fireworks, the heavens did not open, nor did he notice any change in himself. It was cold, the wind was blowing, and suddenly in a ruthless silence he realized that he still has to descend.
Train. Because the road is the goal. You might not always like it, but it is your own.